If you do a lot of emotional labor for others and struggle to prioritize your own needs (or to even know what your own needs are);
If moments to come into your own, express yourself, or be assertive trigger self-doubt and insecurity;
If you have difficulty expressing anger;
If you feel like shame, particularly as a feminized person, holds you back from fully being yourself;
If you have a hard time trusting others with your vulnerability;
If you have estranged relationships within your family of origin and are trying to tease out how harm caused as a child impacts you now;
If you seek to be bold, confident, and believe that doing so is a radical act of self-love;
Than I may be able to support you to live loudly and take up space! I specialize in working with self-identified queer femmes who strive to fully embody their sexuality, identity, gender expression, and creativity.
Femmes have unique experiences, even within queer communities. We tend to be emotionally intelligent and self-aware. We tend to be good communicators, hard working, and are both self-reliant and community builders. We often come off as more put together than we feel. Our personal strengths and struggles are shared because they exist within the context of misogyny that conditions us that the needs of others are more important than our own.
That’s why my practice is entirely for and about femmes (and the only one that I know of like it). It’s a space that’s all for you! I believe that there is value in femme therapy and intentionally center my mental health practice around identity rather than issues in order to focus on celebrating femmes as we already are.
My work is client-centered, non-directive, and highly relational. It looks like a lot of listening. I believe you are your own expert and it’s not for me to tell you what is best for you. I support you by holding space for you to express yourself and feel seen doing so. I strive to break down the patriarchal therapist-client hierarchy in power by being a person in the room so that you can practice embodying the autonomy you seek in your life. I come from a place of curiosity, humility, and playfulness while prioritizing your needs and acknowledging that you’re a badass.
I am trauma-informed and have experience working with symptoms including depression, anxiety, dissociation, hypervigilance, grief, and low self-esteem. I enjoy working with clients who are new to therapy, have had negative experiences with therapy, or come from a culture of mental health being stigmatized. As a femme therapist, I work with bisexual, pansexual, polyamorous, non-monogamous, kinky, fat, trans, and nonbinary femmes who are activists, artists, and academics in long-term therapy.
To learn more about working with me, please visit What I Offer
I am a California Registered Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) #108767
My Master's degree in Counseling is from California State University of East Bay